Relationship Red Flags

No relationship is perfect, but some are a living hell. People say that “they should have listened to their gut”. Usually there are red flags at the beginning of the relationship that are ignored. Why do we tend to deny the obvious while dating? Why do we not want to...

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Saving A Marriage By Weighing Your Words

Words have the power to encourage, enrich, and enhance. They also have the power to destroy, discourage, and drain a relationship. We can save a marriage by weighing our words carefully before they are out in the open. How many times have you said something to your...

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Don't Let Difficult People Bring You Down!

I'm the kind of person who generally likes most everyone I meet, and I think I'm basically likeable and easy to get along with. I respect others and don't want to intentionally harm anyone. If you're like most people though, at some point in life you'll run into a...

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The Art of Letting Go

Learning to let go is something that can produce a sense of peace in our lives. It is when we cling to things that we tend to become anxious and depressed. Recently I've been thinking about all the areas in life where letting go is necessary and healthy. When a loved...

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Dealing with Adult Step-Children

Today many couples get married for the second time after a divorce or the death of their spouse. It is usually an exciting time for them as they feel blessed to have a second chance at love. They feel as though everyone should be happy for them and embrace the new...

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Managing Anxiety Symptoms

Anxiety symptoms can be very distressing and take on a life of their own. It looks like this: We’re faced with a stressful situation or anything that our minds could interpret as a threat to ourselves. We begin to feel tension in our bodies that can present as...

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Anxiety Counseling for Panic Attacks

Understanding Panic Attacks Many people all over the world suffer from panic attacks, and I was one of them. One day when I was 17 years old, out of nowhere I suddenly felt an incredible sense of fear and dread come over me. My heart started racing, I broke out in a...

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Saying YES To The Experience

“Mommy, we’re not making a mess. We’re having an experience!” This was my daughter’s response when I saw my mud covered driveway and more to the point – my mud covered children. My initial reaction was one of frustration thinking of the clean up that this was going to...

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Saving a Marriage From Infidelity

All too often we hear of couples whose marriage ends in divorce due to infidelity.  It is a tragic ending to something that was once beautiful, and we wonder if saving a marriage from the pain of  infidelity might have been possible. I believe it is possible to...

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Blended Families: Saving a Marriage Before it Begins

Today blended families are common and couples are interested in saving the marriage the second time around. “This time we’ll make it work!” is their motto. It is estimated that in the United States, 43 % of marriages are remarriages for at least one of the adults. A...

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The Art of Saving a Marriage 2

Saving a marriage is something that is entirely possible, but that requires two willing spouses and a skilled counselor. Both spouses must be willing to save the marriage and undertake some important changes in their behaviors and attitudes. Changing certain behaviors...

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The Yelling Place

Every mother has been there.  That place, before you had children, that you said you would never be.  That place, where you looked on at those other mothers, with grimaces on their faces and said, “I will never do that to my children”.  That place that at times feels...

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Save the Marriage or Call it Quits: That is the Question.

There comes a time in many marriages when the question arises: “Should we try to save the marriage?” Sometimes hurts are very deep and the same issues come up again and again. Couples usually want to save the marriage, but are at a loss as to how to go about it. What...

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When Mental Illness Requires Hospitalization

“They’ll send me to the Loony Bin!” is an expression often said in jest. Mental illness is real for many people and they may fear going “crazy” and being admitted to a psychiatric hospital. Images from “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest” (1975) or other such scenarios...

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HELP for the Single Parent

Whether you have been a single parent for years or have recently found yourself in that role, you know that the needs are many and you could use some help! Single parents often find that there is never enough time to complete the tasks of raising children, providing...

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Saving a Marriage: Mission Possible

At times it seems that saving a marriage is like Mission Impossible.  There is so much hurt and resentment that some couples decide to throw in the towel and move on. Cultural mindset: "Out with the Old, In with the New" Years ago, when a pair of shoes had a hole it...

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Dying to Self to Make Room for Something New

I returned to Arkansas last week, just in time to enjoy the fall colors!  I want to share some of my thoughts with my clients and former clients: As I watch the crimson maple leaves float to the ground, I’m reminded that in order for Spring to arrive, Fall has to...

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It Takes Two to Save a Marriage

At Northwest Counseling, Inc., couples frequently come to us for marriage counseling, in the hopes that saving a marriage is the happy outcome.  As counselors we hope to help couples save their marriage, but we understand that both partners must be fully invested in...

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Anger: Good or Bad?

Of course, anger is neither good nor bad. It is very useful in a number of ways e.g. a call to action in a crisis, the expression of courage in a conflict and as a warning sign in our bodies that “something” is wrong. But most of us experience anger in an explosive,...

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Dealing with Anger Through Anger Management Counseling

Learning to express our anger in healthy, productive ways is a challenge, a new paradigm, and a new way to view these emotions that can easily be destructive.  Anger management counseling is often the tool that helps individuals and couples achieve the changes that...

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