"Not Tonight, Honey" …again

When counseling couples one issue I hear over and over is the difference in sexual desire between the husband and wife. Most of the time, the husband desires to have sex more frequently than his wife and he can't figure out "what's wrong with her". Some women have...

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How to Heal from Infidelity

The crushing weight threatens to suffocate you, the pain wants to engulf you, and you don’t think you can go on.  Unfortunately this is what many individuals experience when they find out their spouse has had an affair.  One day the world comes crashing in, when the...

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A Wise Investment: Your Child's Self Esteem

Parenting is, to say the least, one of the toughest jobs on earth, and one for which no one is fully prepared. No baby is born with an"operating manual" in tow, and parents have to figure it out as they go. We tend to focus a lot of our attention on feeding them,...

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You CAN Save your Marriage!

It is possible to save your marriage, with the guidance of a skilled counselor. Frequently individuals call our office in a desperate cry for help for their marriage, basically pleading: “Help me stop divorce”! Feelings are frayed and hearts are heavy, as these...

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ARKANSAS FOR SEXUAL ASSAULT AWARENESS MONTH

National Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month Governor Beebe's weekly column and radio address: Stopping Sexual Violence Little Rock March 29, 2013 While we set high goals for Arkansas, we also recognize that the achievement of these goals depends on the...

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Counseling in the News 2013 March 29

A new law is under consideration in the Arkansas General Assembly that could strengthen the ability of mental health professionals to protect the public. The law, HB1746 was authored by Rep. Ann V. Clemmer and is co-authored by Sen. Cecille Bledsoe. Rep. Clemmer told...

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Smart Executives are not Necessarily Effective Leaders

Executive leadership functions under a misnomer that how smart you are will predict how successful you are. There are many examples of very smart people who succeed. In fact it takes a threshold of intelligence just to get through school, especially a Masters Degree,...

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Being Present

The Army uses the slogan, “The toughest job you’ll ever love.”  As thankful as I am for our military men and women, I have to respectfully disagree.  Parenting is the toughest job you’ll ever love.  There is nothing in this world that can take us to the limits of our...

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Have You Noticed?

Winter. Not particularly harsh this year. In fact mid-February warmed to the mid  60's boasting warm get out and walk evenings in the 50's. Still winter has its grip. On this March morning it is 19 degrees. Windy frosty air freezes breath in my lungs. Scans of the...

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Destructive Anger

Anger Management   I don't think Northwest Arkansas is unusually plagued with angry people. In fact, it may be more laid back than average. Still, anger is one of the most destructive forces in relationships. Most angry people agree that it hurts their lives....

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Who Needs Counseling?

Counseling is NOT for Dummies It is a common misconception that counseling is for DUMMIES - or CRAZIES - or WEAKLINGS. In fact, it is not for the faint of heart at all. It takes a great deal of courage to face one's issues and even more to share them with another...

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Goal Setting: Resolutions

Guide to "Guilt-Free New Year Resolutions" To resolve or not to resolve? If you are like most you have guilt over falling short of your 2010 promises to self. I don’t make them myself but that is not to say I don’t set goals. It isn’t so much the resolution but the...

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The Holiday Blues

Blue  Is Not A Christmas Color The holidays are supposedly the brightest and most joyful time of the year. For some, nothing could be further from reality.  Many people suffer the Holiday Blues. There are a number of factors that contribute to this recognized malady....

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Say "Thank You" for Your Self Esteem

LOW SELF ESTEEM? A 'THANK YOU' CAN HELP An inaccurate self concept can be devastating especially when a person evaluates themselves in a harsh, overcritical way. Commonly referred to as low self esteem, there is a pattern of self-denial, a belief that they don’t...

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NCI In The News

Kumasi Aaron 5NEWS Reporter On August 25, 2011, Ms. Aaron interviewed our own William D. Oldham on the subject of rising divorcee rates in Arkansas. 10:35 p.m. CDT, August 25, 2011 The news story has been taken down from www.5newsonline.com, but we have preserved the...

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Listening Will Bring Your Close

The Gift of Listening   By Deborah Pinkston, Ph.D. After the holidays we get busy returning gifts that either don’t fit, we don’t need them, or they are just not “us”.  One gift we can give that will always be cherished is the gift of listening.  We can give the...

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Our Fear of Rejection

Rejection Won't Kill You by William D. Oldham, LPC Rejection -- really the fear of rejection -- is nearly universal. It is as irrational as it is pervasive. You are probably fearful of what people think about you. If the fear isn't registering, all smug in your cozy...

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A Fresh Start

New Year Thoughts by Debbie Pinkston, Ph.D., LAC At the beginning of each year my thoughts turn to where I’m at, where I think I “should” be by now, and where I want to be next year.  As I think back on my previous New Year’s resolutions I realize that so many of them...

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Parenting is Letting Go

All Children Fly Away What is a mother to do when her baby bird gains its feathers? A friend recently lamented that she would take her 2 year old son for his first hair cut the next day.  A sheer tragedy that his blonde baby curls would find the barber’s floor.  There...

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Intimacy is "Self" Revealing

Intimacy: Deep Gazes Into Your Soul An inaccurate self concept can be devastating especially when a person evaluates themselves in a harsh, overcritical way. Commonly referred to as low self esteem, there is a pattern of self-denial, a belief that they don’t matter...

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